I realised that it is difficult to live with a recovering perfectionist. My poor hubby often gets the brunt of it. Living with a perfectionist means for him, I’m always on a mission.
– Eating clean
– Creating and making most if not all of our meals and snacks
– Moving efficiently. My workout times are precious times.
– Making sure that Asher is stimulated. Thinking about different concepts and games to play.
– Creating better recipes. I have made a lemon tart 3 times in a week because I didn’t quite get it right.
– Being the best I can at work means sometimes I do work on most evenings and have my mind ticking away on it even when I’m supposed to rest.
I stopped myself the other afternoon in realisation how blunt, and even unkind when I was on the phone with him. Often, I do my meal prep the night before, and for one ingredient, hubby had chopped chorizo roughly.
In a rush of me trying to get dinner done, wanting to complete a few household chores, making Asher’s lunch and prep for an outing that afternoon means I was in a rush. That was still no excuse for being unkind. With the filter not on, I said “darling, why is the chorizo chopped in such big pieces! That’s not how I usually do it”.
As quickly as it came, it made me realised how ungrateful and rude I was. He apologised and said “oh! I’m sorry, I just did it without thinking”. That shattered my heart. I quickly regrouped and said “no, it was not your fault. I was in a hurry and rushed and in the scheme of things.. it does not matter really. I’m sorry for being rude”.
It highlighted to me how kind and how generous my husband was. How he tried to help but I dis credited him.
A girlfriend and I had lunch the other day and asked how do we make our marriage work? We seem happy and content to the outside world. The truth is, we are a work in progress. In our pre marriage counselling sessions, I realised I am often abrasive and impatient. He is the patient one. I want answers now, while he needed time to digest things. Fast forward nearly 6 years of marriage, I’m still practising holding my tongue and being patient. He tries to speed up and is learning how to verbalise how he feels.
It is what makes our marriage ticks. We agree that we are a work in progress and continue to work on ourselves to strengthen our relationship. It is not perfect but we do not strive to be. We strive to be partners in life.
This is our current favourite salad. A big bowl of zucchini noodles. Sometimes, I would make it with kelp noodles and place them in a container. This huge salad would last us 4-5 days, meaning that I need to prep dinner less. I would dress them up differently. Sometimes a nut butter dressing suits us. Other times with just olive oil and drizzle of balsamic vinegar. Who would have thought raw zucchini noodles are so delicious? Certainly a game changer when it comes to salads. One thing did not change. We eat from ONE big bowl to save washing up.
And that is us too. 🙂
- 2 zucchini made into noodles by the spiralizer
- 1 carrot spiralized
- 1 tablespoon of tahini
- 1 tablespoon of coconut oil
- 1 tablespoon of warm water
- half a lemon juiced
- toasted pinenuts and sesame seeds
- Toss vegetables with mixed dressing. Sprinkle with toasted pine nuts and sesame seeds for a good crunch!